Many sides of the same coin.

There are many different sides to everyone.
And in your interactions with certain people, for the most part they only get to see a limited number of sides to your personality.
Your teacher at school never really gets to see the party animal you become on the dance floor when your favorite song comes on.
You friends never get to see the work side of you.
And your co- workers, assuming you don’t dip your pen in the company pot, never get to see the romantic intimate side of you.

Just think isn’t it insane that I know Joe blow in only this light but that on a different day in a different circumstance. Joe blow becomes and is don Juan the foreign exchange student with the sexy accent?

You ever wonder about how many sides of you there are?

And how you are perhaps the sole person that sees all those sides leaving room for critique and self analysis. It’s the interaction between all these sides that is the key. You take that secret with you to the grave.

I may know Sarah as a class mate and a daughter because I’ve seen her interact with her family at study time but what am I to say about Sarah as a student beyond the scope of our class?

It’s especially interesting because it’s these little glimpses that people give us into their personalities that then form our entire perception of the person as a whole.

My mind almost wants to implode when I think about the number of assumptions people and I make about each other, the world and the circumstances in it every single day. So the key is be open minded. Allow for the possibility of an existence of ANY explanation.

The brain is however finite.. there is no such thing as infinite open mindedness. Does that then mean we’re destined to a life of false assumptions?
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**********************Sept 2nd***************************
The many sides of the same coin and then some.....

Further reflection and another first encounter.
I come home and reflect on the evening as I often do with everything in my world.
Sometimes I wonder if there is such a thing as way too much thinking for your own good.
Alas, I reach the conclusion that the exposition of self should be a delicate and intricate process. Something that we take for granted on a day to day basis.
Take for example the order in which you reveal the many sides of your personality.
Lets say in one encounter you first expose your insecurities and second a bit of humor followed by humility and then your confidence. What picture does the person you’ve just met create about you in their mind? It is human instinct to assume the person before them is on wobbly ground… uncertain of their goals in life… allowing the wind to take them where it may. A person with not a whole lot of caliber. A short sight on most of our parts. what is to be said of the courage of a person willing, on a first meeting, to expose a part of them very often mistaken for a weakness? What is to be said of the comfort level this person has with their insecurities? What is to be said about the nature of the interaction that is being had with the person in front of them? All questions we often forget to ask ourselves regarding our first impressions.

Now take another first encounter where you first expose your humor, confidence, humility and then your insecurities. This, in most circumstances is what keeps people coming back for more. Life is difficult on many levels, whether it be on a personal or professional level. And so to be around someone who is confident and exudes energy inevitably gives us that positive sense of well being as well and so we recreate the circumstance in which we find ourselves in their company. Now throw a little humility and insecurity into the mix and just like magic you become human the confidence and humor that previously might have had you up on a pedestal are now counteracted by these endearing human qualities. But again this too is often a short sight…what people often fail to see is that… there are definite walls being placed in this circumstance. There are things they have deemed too personal or private to share with a perfect stranger. There are issues with trust. Issues of self preservation from hurt.

But what is it about a specific person that unintentionally allows us to pick a specific order in which to unveil all that is ‘you’?
Why is it that meeting one person I can come off as the most arrogant person and to another the most humble? We must inevitably be affected or influenced by something.
What is that something? And wouldn’t understanding what that something was give us great negotiating and marketing power?